What do you think — is he right? Never assume because we are over 40 that we are HIV-Positive or practice unsafe sex. Young men are often the most prone to abandon safe sex in the heat of the moment, as they view the disease in a less-serious light than we do. Many men over 40 have no interest in or despise some of these women, and some are even too young to know much about Judy. But we do all love Cher, because not loving Cher is somehow just wrong. Stay away from the label unless you know we like it, or unless you want us to send you home without supper. You know, just like a lot of straight people.